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Passion Never Dies

      OK, look, I may be 74 years old but that does not mean that I am no longer a passionate woman. Passion fills my being often and I am not slowing down. In many ways, I am even more passionate now than when I was younger. 

      As a matter of fact, it is often easier to be passionate at my age than when I was younger. 

      First off, I don’t have to worry about my children who are now middle-aged. I don’t have to focus on a stressful job. I no longer have to climb the ladder of success and crash through that scary glass ceiling.

      My relationships are long-standing and supportive, and I have much more time on my hands to grab that quicky when the moment moves me.

      Many men my age have lost their prostates, but it does not mean that they have lost their passion. Instead, they have created more innovative, romantic, sexy and invigorating ways to please their women and their men.

      And many women my age are now turning to other women to express their passions. Some of us are now identifying as a different sex to finally realize our “true selves.”

      We are becoming more exploratory in our exploits.

      Psychology Today says that “older couples sustain erotic sex by evolving from intercourse to outercourse” (look it up on Google). Additionally, older adults who have sex at least twice a month report greater happiness. 

      And let’s not forget to talk about love for people our age.  We have settled into a normal attitude about love and loving—we have lowered our expectations and have increased our capacities. We love more freely and openly and express ourselves without fear of being misunderstood. 

      There is tremendous freedom at this age to show my love and affection without expecting anything in return.  It just feels fabulous to be able to do this—truly it does. Talk about crashing through the sex ceiling!

      I was just on a road trip with three female colleagues. We are all in our seventies, and it was such a joy to watch all of us flirt, cajole and embrace and express our well-earned passions and sexiness.  Older women possess a special gift to turn heads because we are now free to own our sexuality and damn it, we have earned it.

      My daughter tells me at every turning decade, “Mom, it is easy to be sexy and beautiful when you are young, but at your age your sex and beauty are  a work of art … and you, Mom,  are a masterpiece.” 

      So, to all those folks out there, young and old, who think for one second that age inhibits our desires for sexual and passionate pleasures, take it from me, it’s better than ever, so go for it!

      As The Pretenders sang, in “Brass in Pocket”:

Cause I’m gonna make you see

There’s nobody else here, no one like me

I’m special, so special

I gotta have some of your attention, give it to me!